And I have literally spent my life trying to be a father first, and all else second," he wrote. That somehow my son apparently now sees me as gay first, and his father second. In a comment, u/Stuckinthebone elaborated on his feelings.
His friends say the fiancée is in the wrong, but OP's brother says he's wrong for not respecting his son's wishes. The OP's dad, however, thinks he should "man up" and attend. Though the son's mom says he can live life how he likes, what he and his fiancée did was wrong. His son started crying and apologized, and u/Stuckinthebone told him he loved him, but added that this was a red flag, and told him "he should really cancel or postpone this wedding, because this woman is showing behaviour that will only get worse." This upset his son, who called him an "a**hole" for "interfering in his personal life." She got upset and demanded they leave, and went to wait for my son in the car," u/Stuckinthebone wrote. "I said 'well you know, we won't burst into flames in the pew'. When OP asked what she meant, she said that it was a church wedding. When he called her out for her homophobia, she attempted to clarify: "I'm not a homophobe, I just don't want to deal with this at my wedding". My husband looked so shocked, and I was honestly just hurt," u/Stuckinthebone wrote. "His fiancee then said that they would just prefer to have a "non ideological wedding". The OP said that was fine, but that his mom's husband was invited, so that was a little odd. "My son got a bit embarassed and said that they aren't really inviting stepparents, just their parents," he wrote. He called up his son's mother, and she confirmed that she not only got an invitation, but hers came with a plus-one for her husband.Īt a dinner with his son and fiancée two days ago, he asked the couple about the missing invite for u/Stuckinthebone's husband. OP got the invitation, but it was for just him he assumed his husband would get his own, but that didn't happen. Though u/Stuckinthebone never married his son's mother, they raised their child together and are very close friends.Įleven years later, u/Stuckinthebone met his now-husband, and says his son considers him his stepdad, and his son's mom adores him as well, joking about him being "her gay best friend." When he was 24, he slept with a woman and got her pregnant, and they had a son, now 25. The original poster (OP) said that he's a 49-year-old gay man, though when he was in the 20s, he was in the closet. Writing for the popular Reddit forum r/AmITheA**hole, stylized AITA, u/Stuckinthebone earned over 4,500 upvotes and 600 comments for his post, "AITA for telling my son to cancel his wedding?" When using a search engine such as Google, Bing or Yahoo check the safe search settings where you can exclude adult content sites from your search results Īsk your internet service provider if they offer additional filters īe responsible, know what your children are doing online.A couple is facing criticism for refusing to let the groom's dad bring his husband because they want the wedding to be "non-ideological." Use family filters of your operating systems and/or browsers
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